Rare is a case where someone claims to become a better version of themselves in a moment. For me, change occurred with the snip of a scissors. In the summer going into my sophomore year of high school, I cut my extremely long and thick hair into a pixie cut. It was a drastic change with no warning to any of my friends and family besides my mother and one of my friends. Prior to cutting my hair, I would get frustrated because I wanted it to look unique but it was too heavy to do anything with it. I felt insecure about my hair so I established myself as3 an extremely passive person who could never make up my mind. My “friends” would walk all over me and exploit what I did for them without consideration for me as a person. Cutting my hair short allowed me to be more assured in who I am, showing my friends and family that I strong individual. I am able to be both unique and confident.
When my hair was long, I would hide behind it, hiding also behind my more confident friends. After I cut it, my peers and family respected me more since it was uncommon that someone my age would make the decision to cut their hair so short. They saw that I had confidence in myself and was growing from a passive girl to a strong young lady. My family saw that I was able to think for myself and trusted me to make the right choices. Many of my friends were impressed that I was able to do something so drastic without asking for the opinions of others first. Both my family and friends saw that I was finally finding myself. I no longer hid behind my “friends”, but became my own distinctive person.
When my hair was long, no one took me seriously because I did not take myself seriously. I would get good grades but I would not put in any extra effort to make my work stand out. No one expected me to be anything special because I did not want to hold myself to any high standard. In a way, it was as though my hair was nothing special and neither was I. After I cut my hair, I saw that I could create a new and better version of myself. I had my own sense of style and could create my own image. I saw that standing out is not inherently bad. My academic performance increased, I became more involved in my school community, and was not afraid to take on leadership roles. My peers now see me as someone reliable since I try to be a leader as well as considerate of people who feel how I felt prior to cutting my hair. In my life today, I continue to look for ways to help people find who they are. Once I was timid and uncommitted, now I am focused and true to myself.
My life changed for the better in an instant. I never believed that cutting my hair would affect the way the way I interact with those around me, nor that it would allow me to be given more responsibilities. Since I know what it is like to be taken advantage of, I try to encourage others and be a true friend, rather than a friend of convenience. When I cut my hair I saw that I had the confidence to shape my own life and to be a true and welcoming friend. One haircut changed my entire outlook on life and friendship. Now with short hair, I am a young woman who tries to be a positive influence by showing people the power of individuality.